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The Problem with First Date Sex

Beach loveThe most exciting part about a relationship is when you finally strip someone down to see what they are packin’.  Come on ladies we all know that while you like to be wined and dined, whats on the back of everyone’s mind is, “I wonder what’s under those clothes.”  So do you wait or do you go at it the first night?  Everyone has their own opinions as to when they feel it’s right to have sex but what is the impact of having sex at early stages of the relationship?

Part of the excitement of getting “freaky” is that you are experiencing someone else in one of life’s greatest joys.  While a lot of people think that guys just want to have sex, research shows that guys will find sex as a more intimate affair than women will.  The reason is that women understand that they can go out and find a guy any night of the week, while guys have to work to get back into a ladies bed.  This is probably why sex is not seen as a passionate thing for many gay males.  Sex is a much more common and normal thing to come across when my friends and I are out.  But how damaging is this to the actual relationship?

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Will Love Really Make you Happy?

Finger LoveThere have been multiple people since I began writing my blog, that have come up to me and asked me for advice.  They find it hard to find a relationship that will drive them to be happy.  Everyone wants a boyfriend it seems like.  Both women and men that are single want that satisfaction and sensation of being in love.  So how do you find it?  How do you go about getting that perfect spouse?  Look at anyone who has been in a relationship for a very long time.  specifically look at those that are very happy, maybe they are planning on getting married, maybe they already are.  Now if you immediately thought of that person who “has it all” then you might be on to something.  Those people did not just stumble into being happy and perfect all by accident.  They first fixed themselves.  They worked hard to make themselves happy.  So the true question I would like to ask you is will love really make you happy?

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Broken Love and Poopy Face

So this is almost like a continuation from my last post Sex Toys, Nipples, and Crying….  As the night concluded a friend of mine and myself began to talk.  It wasn’t about friends or who liked who.  It was about us.  Us as a friendship, us as a couple, us in the future.  We talked about how we could not become a couple because it would just not work and we came to an agreement that there was no real way that we would work out.  As another person I know put it, we were both obviously attracted to one another.  We have a lot in common and at some points we almost fight like a married couple!  We would get jealous of one another, we would criticize one another, all the while we knew that the other person was the one person we could go back to.  In some ways and on some level we almost…loved…each other.  It is apparent that there is some level of bonding that must be broken.  It was an affair gone on to long and now needs to stop.  No more flirting, no more affection, no more passion.  We are building a relationship that will become strictly platonic.  How easy is it to be around someone you care about when there was once something there?

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With open arms and open legs — SEX

So I am not sure if I have mentioned that I am talking to someone…but I am, well sort of…I think.  They are really cute but there are issues with our little “relationship”.  I for one, am very happy being single and focusing solely one my work and I know he is not quite over the ex.  If he ever will be I don’t know, only time will tell but I guess we will see.  Everything has been going very well and we get along great when we are together but I feel like it’s not enough.  He wanted to save himself until after the holidays to be intimate.  Now mom if you are reading this…stop.  But for others, and I will try to keep this as clean as possible but, how much of a relationship should be based on the relationship, and how much on sex?
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